When I first started trying to build an online business, I thought being independent meant figuring things out for myself.
If I didn’t know how to do something, I’d search Google.
If I got stuck with some piece of technology, I’d find a YouTube video.
If I didn’t understand a particular strategy, I’d read another article or download another guide.
It seemed sensible enough.
Why pay for help when so much information was available for free?
The problem was that I wasn’t just learning.
I was trying to become the expert in everything.
And there’s a big difference.
There Is a Cost to Figuring Everything Out Yourself
One thing online business has taught me is that you can usually find an answer to almost anything.
The difficult part is knowing whether you’ve found the right answer for what you’re trying to do.
I’ve spent hours solving problems that probably didn’t need solving.
I’ve researched tools I never ended up using.
I’ve gone down technical rabbit holes because I thought I needed to understand every detail before I could move forward.
And I’ve certainly spent plenty of time comparing different opinions about the same thing.
The information was free.
My time wasn’t.
That’s something I didn’t appreciate enough in the beginning.
But Buying Help Isn’t Automatically the Answer Either
This is where I’ve probably swung from one extreme to the other over the years.
At first, I tried to work everything out myself.
Then I started believing the answer was finding the right course, mentor or system that would show me exactly what to do.
I’ve bought programs.
I’ve followed successful marketers.
I’ve tried different systems.
And I’ve learned useful things from many of them.
But I’ve also learned that paying someone for guidance doesn’t remove the need to think for yourself.
Someone else’s roadmap can show you a route.
You still have to decide whether it’s taking you somewhere you actually want to go.
That’s a lesson that took me quite a while to understand.
Good Guidance Should Make You More Independent
These days, I think about guidance differently.
I don’t want somebody to make every decision for me.
And I don’t want to blindly reproduce somebody else’s business.
What I want is enough help to understand what I’m doing and why I’m doing it.
There’s an important difference between:
“Tell me exactly what to do.”
and:
“Help me understand this well enough to make a sensible decision.”
The first can create dependence.
The second builds capability.
And for me, that’s what useful guidance should eventually do.
You Don’t Need to Know Everything
This might be the biggest change in how I approach online business now.
I used to think I needed to understand everything before I could move forward.
Website design.
SEO.
Email marketing.
Funnels.
Traffic.
Copywriting.
Automation.
Analytics.
And whatever new piece of technology appeared the following week.
I don’t anymore.
I need to understand enough for the stage I’m at now.
If I’m writing a blog post, I need enough SEO knowledge to publish it properly.
If I’m building an email sequence, I need to understand enough email marketing to create something useful.
If I’m setting up a landing page, I need enough technical knowledge to make it work.
I can learn the next thing when I actually need it.
That has made the whole process feel considerably more manageable.
Learn From Others. But Keep Your Hands on the Wheel.
I still believe there’s enormous value in learning from people who are further ahead.
Trying to reinvent everything yourself doesn’t make much sense.
But neither does handing somebody else the steering wheel and assuming their destination should automatically become yours.
That’s probably the balance I’ve been looking for.
Learn from experience.
Ask for help when you need it.
Use proven ideas where they make sense.
But understand enough to make your own decisions.
Because ultimately, nobody else is building your business.
You are.
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